Are you being badly behaved?
Hello hello đ ,
It has been a minute! I hope you have been well? Pause, take a minute to think about if you really have been. I really do hope the good days outnumber the not so good ones and I hope you remember to treat yourself with kindness and extend it to others.
Being mentally ill is hard on any scale, whether it is an illness that you only just noticed or one youâve struggled it for a while. It is hard and exhausting and excruciating, butttt you know what mental illness isnât? It isnât an excuse for you to be a mean or terrible person.
I understand that our mental health struggles shape up a big part of who we are and significantly changes us, but it doesnât excuse or give anyone a pass to be shitty. Expecting people to ignore how badly you treat them because you are mentally ill and throwing out phrases like âItâs just the way I amâ, âYou cannot understandâ just continues to perpetuate the stigma around mental illnesses.
Mental illness is not an excuse for bad behavior, mental illness is not an excuse to be manipulative and to get away with being a terrible human. If you find yourself being a person with questionable traits and people are becoming weary of you, please seek help as this might be an indicator of something deeper and if you are already seeking help, please be committed to it and be committed to being a better person. Doing the work to become better is hard, but itâs rewarding hard work.
We all have bad days, there are periods when we feel like biting the head off anyone who crosses our path even when theyâve done nothing to deserve our wrath, you know what makes you a good or a bad person? Itâs how you choose to act, because really thoughts arenât actions. Do you pause and think about how your actions could affect an innocent person or you donât give a hoot about how you impact others? If itâs the latter, you might just be a shitty person with mental illness.
I find it ironic when people struggling with their mental health are constantly being unkind and nasty. Iâd imagine that knowing how much struggle it is and knowing firsthand that we all need grace and kindness extended to us will be more than a little motivation to be empathetic. Spread a little bit of the light that you needed to another in need of it.
Introspection is critical to self-assessment and I hope that we all take the time to think about our actions, and not only how they affect us but the people around us as well. How we relate to others is a big part of our lives, we all need people, if we find ourselves lacking and treating people in ways that are unbecoming, then we put in the work to be better.
That is it for this week folks, I hope you have an amazing and productive week and that you are surrounded with the kindness that you deserve and spread it amongst others.
With love.
âOMS